Divorce and Single Parenting-The Ultimate Betrayal
Divorce feels like the ultimate betrayal. Whether you are the petitioner or the respondent in a divorce, it hurts. Everyone, I know of, intended THEIR marriage to be a permanent. Everyone wants to know they are loved and have someone to love. Everyone wants to be known by another and accepted, warts and all. But, somehow that is harder to create than what originally was thought.
Questions Being to Pile Up
Questions begin to pile up either with the acceptance of the divorce petition, the final decree has been signed or because you are still in the same house and know that it is over. How do you get through it? How do you start to make sense of your life and move forward in a productive way? How do you begin to date again? How do you raise your kids as a single parent? How do you juggle all this and not become depressed and lonely. How…..?
Emotions begin to Overwhelm You
With all the questions come emotions at a heightened level and with frequency that you have not experienced before. Fear, Anger, Doubt, Abandonment, Betrayal, Loneliness and yes, even Freedom. Love also comes back at this time with a different intensity or coupled with confusion. There is residual love from remembering the hopes and dreams and all the good times. Love comes from the events, like the special vacation or the birth of children. Continued love for your partner is not bad or inappropriate. It may help heal you and help you be reasonable with custody and other settlement arrangements. Sometimes there is a need to work through Domestic Violence Issues. The reality of the present and necessary changes to your situation can be so harsh.
Making Your Best Decisions During Divorce
During this huge upheaval in life, it may not seem like seeking counseling is the best thing you can do, but often it is the difference between making good choices or poor ones as you being the new journey or chapter of your book. I don’t encourage people to go into greater debt as they process divorce, but sometimes family help is needed at this time to maintain good parenting or personal sanity. I am here to talk out the strong emotions, help make the lists of priorities, help with talking points about the divorce to lawyers, courts, children, family or friends. I can help you establish healthy boundaries for the dating process and healthy boundaries for single parenting. I can also help you work through forgiveness if you want to, or learn negotiation skills for parenting with your ex-partner.
I hope you consider a limited number of sessions to help you launch from the marriage and land on your feet in your new life and space. Call 720-982-7057 or complete the form on the right and I will get right back to you.