Helping Others Heal
Valerie is a professional counselor working in the Castle Rock and Centennial area. She helps those who have experienced grief and loss, traumas especially from childhood experiences, family estrangements and spiritual abuse. The reason she specializes in these areas is that this is where she has found the people she has the most compassion for their suffering and sense of helplessness and hopelessness.She has compassion for those who feel they have no or limited voice and have a great frustration with feeling worthy and accomplished. She has compassion for those experiencing grief and loss from a variety of situations and the wondering if it will ever get better. She understands the waves of despair from not ever feeling “good enough. Because at one time she was in all these places, came to a healthy resolution, and went back to school as a seasoned adult to become the professional counselor to help others struggling. Now listen to how she tells the rest of her story.
Nikaos means Victorious
The name of my business is Nikaos Counseling Colorado. Nikaos, is a Greek word meaning victorious, or over-comer, and it implies strength. It is also a Biblical word with several references to overcoming and victory. People are “Victorious” who have gone through great struggles and are still seeking help to become all who they are meant to be. They are my heros and heroines. People are victorious and strong as they seek to conquer their sense of hopelessness and powerlessness due to past events they have experienced. Together, in the counseling process, we can re-write what got lost or broken in your life. We can begin to re-create a new hope and renewed strength for your future. I have always want to help others heal, but now as a professional counselor I have the training to see that happen. I invite you to start counseling now if you know you need to heal from a hurtful past.
Education & Experiences
I obtained my Master of Arts in Counseling from Denver Seminary’s Nationally Certified Counseling program, (CACREP). I am certified as a Nationally Certified Counselor from the National Board of Certified Counselors (NBCC). I have counseled at Shepherd’s Gate and at the Denver Rescue Mission’s residential housing for men and families. I have lead several recovery groups for women and a children’s group that was focused on empowerment. I have also counseled on a domestic violence crisis line at a local Women’s Shelter. I have worked for a hospice and in a county assistance service. I have also worked in a Fortune 500 company, several small business including some churches, and at a weapons facility. I have been trained in EMDR, and use it frequently to help my clients gain strength and empowerment through visualizing resources they have or need in their life. I also consider myself to be a spiritual counselor or a Christian counselor. I can use the Bible or your specific spiritual direction as as our guide to healing. As a professional counselor, I can use any higher power you have close to your heart. I know that often a person spiritual life is what has held you together so far is your relationship with your God, Allah, or Yahweh.
My Personal Story
My desire to become a Professional Counselor comes from a deeply held belief in the worth of each individual. A belief that, in some way, we are all in this together. So, I began my journey to obtain the education needed to expand my resources and credentials as a Counselor,
A Career as a Professional Counselor began….
I actually began considering a career in counseling when I was 20. At that time, I entered Metro State College seeking a Human Services degree. Since that time, I went through what I consider the maturing and seasoning that struggles as well as successes in life bring. I married, had two awesome children, loved home schooling my kids, and then divorced an abusive spouse. As a single parent, I owned and operated my own service business, bought a home, and put myself back in school to obtain a BS in Organizational Management.
I held jobs managing a Fortune 500 web site as well as managing departments in other public corporations, and non-profit religious institutions. Then, I went through empty nesting. That was tough for me and it brought on stress related health issues. The good news, for me was that all the successes and stress caused me to slow down enough to work through my own dysfunctional family of origin issues. During that time, I had difficulty finding steady work for which the recession added to my employment struggles. I ended up getting prescribed the wrong medications for my stress and extreme fatigue. However, in that time of great loss, I developed great deal of compassion for myself and others who go through similar struggles. I also realized, through my experiences, it takes great patience to be the encouragement for those who may have spent decades of attempting to bury their pain. My early abuse in childhood and early adult relationship, combined with a need to over-achieve in order to avoid the pain, created a broken and confused self. I was out out touch with my own body and emotions. If you have a history of burying emotional or physical pain and know you are reaching your limit of enduring the disconnect it produces in your current life, please do not hesitate to contact me!
I cherish those the relationships that have helped me on my way. I know I can be “the giver” person of patience and compassion for others, now. I have a strong spiritual foundation, and I encourage people to explore their strengths within all aspects of the human experience. This often includes their past experiences, biology, psychology, social experiences, and spiritual strengths. I work as a collaborative egalitarian counselor where you are the expert on yourself and your experiences, while I bring techniques and knowledge that can help restore congruence and harmony in your life.
I am a Colorado Native and “loves it here!” Denver Metro has changed a lot. The changes that I especially enjoy are the art and food options that are available now. I’m Lovin’ the variety! I used to go hiking and backpacking and camping by the creeks and lakes in our beautiful mountains. Now that age and added weight have taken their tole on my knees, I have become a lightweight hiker doing only half-day hikes. However, I will never forget the beautiful mountain scenes; lakes and trails I have have traveled down or camped by. Those experiences will be with me forever. I still have a dream to get up a 14,000 footer once more in my life. Maybe I will make it!
A Crushed Rose Gives the Sweetest Scent!
I hope that I do for all my clients. There is a saying that you cannot help someone if you have never been there yourself. I believe there is great truth to that, and also that wisdom comes when you find “patience for the process.” As a professional therapist I know that change is not made overnight, so you would benefit from listening to your gut (or heart) to know if you are connecting with me as your counselor. Literature supports that clients do best from finding a counselor they connect with regardless of the therapy approach. I hope you come to see me, but if not, stay strong and